Sunday, September 28, 2014

Changing Terminology and the "R" Word

So, as some of you may have seen, I posted a link of a chart on my Facebook page a few weeks ago with this chart:


Now, I don't typically put strong feelings on social media, but this was an exception. I understand that my generation, and the ones surrounding ours, use this word when a friend is acting foolish or stupid, and that isn't okay. In a perfect world, I would make it my life goal to personally abolish this word, and although the world isn't perfect, I can do my part in my everyday life. This word that was once an excepted medical term has now become pejorative. Fun fact- in 2013, the "R" word was deemed incorrect and outdated and was replaced with the word "intellectually disabled" or that someone has an "intellectual disability" in all legislature and medical journals. Therefore, in my mind, there is absolutely no reason to use this word anymore. 

As I've met people at college, I've had to go through my talk many times. In Portage, those who knew me knew that it wasn't okay to say it around me, and I would prefer if they just deleted it from their vocabulary. Many of my friends and peers stopped using this word in our early middle school years, and the conversations I had with those around me greatly decreased by the time I got to high school. Being in a new place with so many people who don't know me means you have your whole story to tell, or I guess, as much of it as you want people to know. I just didn't realize how often I would have to repeat this part of my story.

As I'm writing this, I'm thinking about how I am going to talk to my education class about this topic on Wednesday like my professor asked me to. The main thing that perplexes me is, why am I nervous? If I'm just explaining the facts, what can go wrong? The truth is, I've learned that many people don't like to be corrected or even shown another way to go about things than their own without getting defensive. However, no defense is needed here. If you use this word knowingly, okay. If you know the meaning behind it and how it has metastasized to a negative connotation and still want to use it, I can't stop you, nor can anyone else. But truthfully, when the majority of people realized that this word that has become part of a social normality is no longer okay, they stop. 

I know I can't change the world in a big way. At least not where I am in life right now. I can, however, change little pieces everyday. Little pieces that not only help shape our society into something better, but the pieces that focus on social justice. And maybe, in doing so, I can not only help delete this word from our vocabulary, but also help overcome the stigma of disabilities in general.

 In the end, we are all unique, but then again, we are all the same.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

I'm a student teacher!!


Hey everyone, 

So I know I just posted about all my friends, but that blog post has been in the making for a few days now, so here is my latest update.

I just finished the first module of my education class and I absolutely loved it. It's so crazy that we are already in the classroom interacting with kids. Going to my education classes are definitely the highlight of my days. My professor for this class was amazing too. Dr. C was so energetic and was the perfect example of the kind of teacher I want to be in the future. Our whole class was so upset that she won't be teaching our next module. Speaking of our class, my fellow classmates are amazing. It's so cool to be in a class with so many people who have the same motives, interests, drive, and values. We get along really well and we are super weird in an amazingly fun way.

Anyway, I know this post is going to be short, but I'm just so thankful that I'm here in this amazing program (I say amazing a lot) that is the only one in the nation-fun fact. I can't wait to see what our next module holds- we get to visit all of the museums in the area, it's a field trip everyday!

On that note, I leave you with this photo of my classmates and Dr. C on our last day at St. Benedict's Secondary School. 


I love my college friends.

I've made some amazing friends and I've only been here three weeks. I mean, I guess it is kind of expected considering we all live together. The odd thing is, even though we have only known each other for a few weeks, because we spend every waking moment together, it feels like we have known each other our whole life. As Loyola says, your job your first year is to find your family, the friends you can rely on to be your support system when you are away from home. I'm glad I did.

It's interesting to think about eating. For my family, we typically ate dinner together and talked about our day. It was weird coming to college and not really having that right away, but it's fixed now. No matter how busy our schedules are, we all get together to study at night and get dinner...and then typically a late night snack to reward our good study habits. So let's introduce you to my lovely group of hooligans, the people who adventure with me everyday and don't judge me if I take an extra cookie before we leave the dining hall.

Emma: An amazing human being from Minnesota. We like sharing popcorn and having sleepovers. Her accent is awesome, and my two favorite words that she says are bag and room-pronounced beg and rum. She's absolutely hilarious and an amazing supportive human. Fun fact- her roommate also didn't show up, so she has an extra bed in her room that I slept in when Melanie was super sick. She also really likes to sleep on the floor of my room because the carpet is super soft? She also really likes "fish crackers" (Goldfish).

*Note: as I was typing this, every time I said "room" it was pronounced in my head like Emma says it. I might come home with an accent, guys. Be prepared.

Jamie: Another super cool human from Iowa. She likes to volunteer in her free time and do crafts, so clearly we get along well. She has an awesome closet and some sweet Vans. She also likes to have sleepovers, in our time here we had a weekend where we had three sleepovers in a row!! She always talks about Whitey's milkshakes that she says are the best on the planet. but we've yet to try them since they are all the way in Iowa. Jamie is absolutely hilarious and can make any day brighter. She's also an awesome support and has a ridiculously compassionate heart. She went to donate blood today, but they deferred her, and it clearly upset her a lot. I can't wait for us to have a Pinterest craft night soon.

Melanie: My awesome roomie from Illinois. First off- our room looks absolutely amazing and feels so homey. We actually have to keep our door closed a lot because everyone in our hall flocks to our room to hangout, so if we have to study, the door stays closed. We get along really well, and we have the same tastes in a lot of things. Food. Blankets. Planners. (We actually bought the same blanket in different colors and the same planner before we got to school without even realizing it.) We have a ridiculous amount of fun in our room and like to dance and sing. Our adventures this year are going to be amaze balls. She's super cute and fun-loving and likes to make weird noises when her throat is itchy. I think it's funny. :) We can talk all night if we wanted too, just because we get along and love girl talk. Typically we have to kick the boys, Aaron and Nathan, out first, though, because they live in our room. As Nathan says, "25% of the room is mine". Luckily, he says part of the 25% is Melanie's bed, not mine.

Olivia: This is my homie. She' s the one I can go to when I need to obsess over Harry Potter. She's also the one to make me feel bad if I'm not studying because she does so often. She's also obsessed with Goldfish, when we had our sleepover she probably had half of one of the big boxes. She's a swimmer and smiles a lot.

Aaron: This is my lovely amigo from Wisconsin. He says a lot of weird words and we make fun of him all the time for it. For example, he calls the drinking fountain a bubbler and the T.V. remote a flipper. The funny thing is, his reasoning for calling it a bubbler is because you can't tell the difference between a fountain in the park versus a drinking fountain if you use the same words, but then how does flipper work? How do you know if you are talking about flippers you swim with or the flipper to change the channel? Anyway, in all seriousness, this kid is awesome. He's super funny and caring even though he teases me all the time. We spent our first night in Chicago at Jamba Juice with Nathan. Aaron is the one I can rely on to always be just as astounded as I am that we get to live here everyday, and to be amazed by the beauty of our campus.

Nathan: The comic relief of our friend group. Literally, everything that comes out of his mouth is hilarious. He's the one I can go to when I need to obsess over musicals, plays, Newsies, or anything theatre and music related. We also have dance parties often, he tries to teach me to twerk to Anaconda. He's also from Michigan, so we can relate over things that none of our friends have in their states, like Vernors.  We annoy our friends when we belt show tunes in the room, hallways, dining halls, or just walking across campus. Fun fact- Nathan has never had a hamburger, so we are going to change that at some point this year even though it scares him. He lives in my room, so he's basically our honorary third roommate.

Becca: I just met Becca, and we've only really interacted three times, but she's super cool and we get along really well. Just listening to her talk makes the day a little better. She's friends with Aly and Josie, so that is how we met. I like her. It's the best when the four of us cuddle up on the daybed in Aly and Josie's apartment and watch Criminal Minds.


And then obviously, I have some amazing friends that I knew from before this year.

Aly: I don't think I really need a blurb on this one. I love this kid so much. She's amazing and the best. We haven't had many adventures together so far, except for to the ER, which hopefully won't become a common adventure. I'm really glad to have her as a support and just to have someone from home who knows me really well.

Josie: Another one who doesn't really need a blurb. I'm really glad we actually live near each other now and our friendship doesn't just exist on texting and snapchats. She's the bomb.com. I like how even though we haven't know each other long, she still can call me out on my crap, and we can have hour long, deep conversations about life. It's pretty great. I love her a lot too.

So there's my homies. I might be biased, but I say they are some of the best. This year is going to be a blast.

Monday, September 8, 2014

Okay, so here is an actual update on my life so far as an adult. As of now, I've been at Loyola for a little over two and a half weeks, although I've only been in classes for 2 weeks of that.

Honestly, I'm not even sure what to say about college so far. If I had to use one word, it would be AMAZING.

I mean, look at my campus.




What isn't there to like?:)

So let's see, in my two and a half weeks here, I have been downtown 10 times for various errands and shopping trips, all of which have been a blast. I've made some amazing friends to go on all these adventures too. We eat out a lot, which probably isn't the best idea for a large group of broke college kids, but when Chicago is your backyard, how can you not? I've learned not only how to navigate the El, but also the CTA buses. As a friend group, we have visited:
  • Lincoln Park Zoo
  • Ed Debevic's
  • Water Tower Place
  • Cheesecake Factory
  • Jamba Juice
  • H&M
  • Forever 21
  • Urban Outfitters
  • Target-2 floors, might I add. It took us 3 hours to get Goldfish and Gatorade.
  • Millenium Park
  • Loyola Beach
In our free time, we eat or we go and sit by the lake to watch the waves roll in. During welcome week, we even got to go roller blading in our student center!! 

All in all, I couldn't be happier with the decision I made for college, and these past few weeks have completely confirmed that I made the right choice with Loyola. It's utterly perfect and I'm obsessed.

Now, knowing me, these first few weeks haven't happened without a few bumps and turns. Currently, as I write this, I'm in a hospital room. Now, don't worry, I'll be alright. But as I sit here, I realize that I really miss home. The thing is, when I say home, I mean Loyola. My dorm room that is constantly filled with my friends studying, or deciding where we want to go for our next meal, or even spending the night on my floor "just because". I'm so excited to go back and be with my homies again. 

It's just so amazing that a place I've only lived in for almost three weeks feels so much like home that I miss it already. Just add that to my tally board of all the reasons why I love my school.

I hope you all have a fantastic week, and I'll talk to you again soon. 

Peace, Love, and Chicken Nuggets.

Haley

Sunday, September 7, 2014

So, college. It's happening. I've finally reached the milestone that so many high schoolers dream about. The only thing is, my dreams couldn't come even close to my college reality.

I've been here at Loyola for 2 weeks now, and I figured maybe a blog would be a good idea for all of you lovely humans still at home? I mean, I've just been so busy between homework, eating, keeping up with my adult responsibilities, and trying to avoid the freshman fifteen to be able to keep everyone up to date on my daily happenings. So here we go, the beginning of my awkward amateur journey through college toward adulthood.

Hang in there with me, it might be a bumpy ride. :)